Oral Sex Tips for Beginners

Sarah Gibson

Sarah Gibson is the brains and attitude behind the playful adult toy website sexgear . She is also our official ‘sexpert’.

You enjoy a good blowjob, so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that women enjoy oral sex too. But did you know that oral pleasure is the most likely way for women to enjoy a knee-trembling orgasm? That means that learning how to perform cunnilingus is guaranteed to make you popular with your ‘flavour of the evening’! Read on for five top tips for beginners on giving great oral sex.

5. Get Comfortable
The female orgasm takes longer to develop than the male one; so perseverance during oral sex is key. You’ll need to assume a position that is both comfortable and enjoyable. One of the most effective positions is lying on your stomach, between her legs with your arms wrapped under her thighs. If you’re feeling more adventurous you could have her kneel over your face while you lie on your back, and she steadies herself by holding onto the headboard. This one allows your hands to roam all over her body and avoids you getting a sore neck.
4. Start Out Slow
Don’t jump right in with an overaggressive tongue. When you begin to give oral sex, it's important to start slowly. Take the time to let her know that you appreciate her body. Start by kissing her, using a mixture of light pecks and more forceful French kisses on her neck, breasts and stomach before moving your attention to the inner thigh and genital area. Letting your mouth find her ‘sacred garden’ slowly will ensure she’s turned on before the main act even begins.

3. Move On In
When you feel you have dedicated enough time to teasing her, start to use your lips, tongue and mouth lovingly on her clitoris, labia and vaginal entrance. Don’t apply too much pressure right away – start out gently and increase pressure and speed according to her body language. Remember, stimulating the clitoris is the only way she is going to orgasm during oral sex, so dedicate plenty of time to it. If your tongue is busy elsewhere, make sure your thumb is still massaging her most important sweet spot.

2. Experiment
As you get more confident it’s a good idea to mix things up a little bit and try out new techniques to see what really gets her going. You might like to try using your tongue or a finger to penetrate her, stimulating the sensitive vaginal opening. Or massaging her thighs and bottom while your mouth is busy to up the ante. But beware there are some things that should never be done, like biting any part of the vagina – that’s a sure way to bring the fun to an abrupt end!

1. Want It
Women need to feel relaxed to orgasm, and there is nothing more orgasm-inhibiting than the feeling that your partner is not enjoying themselves. Use emphatic sounds like ‘mmm’s’ and ‘ohhh’s’ during the act, not only will they help her to settle down and enjoy the experience but the vibrations from your vocal cords will feel great too.
So there you have it, five tips to help you become a master with your mouth! Just remember to be gentle, take your time and have fun.

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  • Angela says
    For Girls and Women:

    You can practise on a Banana putting on a condom to get it right and then practice giving a blow job or Head to the banana he he he. This helped me alot when I was first starting a Relationship or seeing a guy... So funny but it worked for me.... Have fun lol...

  • Greg says
    Practice makes perfect, oh yes.
  • barnes10 says


    I think the tip on the TV show Nip/Tuck for oral sex was to make the letters of the alphabet with your tongue
  • Erenakelly says
    I found the funniest way to deal with oral sex on women was mentioned in the Kiwi film Separation City: a shot (or several) of Baileys apparently helps ease the, erm, 'tang'. Otherwise, the 'less is more' theory is really not applicable in this situation...

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