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Another excellent article....and I agree 100%. Atmosphere is crucial in dating, and that goes from attitude to surroundings. Never forget humour...but keep intimacy, humour and seriousness in balance. There's a time and place for everything. If you can't kiss, you are failed before you start.. learn to kiss the right way. Take your lead from the lady if you're not sure...Some like soft, some enjoy full-on kisses. Humour is also a form of foreplay.

This may well work in the fancy pants bars of big foreign cities but the traditional kiwi method of both of you getting shit faced isn't to scoffed at when on the pull in Aotearoa.

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I think you should be a gentleman and not sleazy. and just see what happens. Making her laugh and listening to her is the best way.

With most women they want something they can't have - if from the outset your goal is to have a one night stand then of course she will know. However if you demonstrate a genuine interest, initiate a kiss early on and allude to second dates she'll relax and enjoy your company - rather than spend the whole night trying to assess your objectives. In fact if you are behaving like a gentleman you is genuinely interested in her chances are she'll take the lead in the bedroom department.

LMAO Bloody men eh - so much for not knowing what we want. I think alot of woman would be too pissy to admit how closely you hit the nail on the head. You would totally get them in bed with that line up. if I might just add another little pointer - definitely agree with the kissing comment but I would suggest getting really close but seeing if you can get her to initiate the kiss - it makes us think the whole seduction thing was our idea and instead of feeling slutty - we're empowered...

all said, i think a woman that is interested in you will usually let you know very early on if she is going to sleep with you or not on the first date. if it doesnt happen on the second then usally they are not interested. unless of course you put her off by your personality. looks first and then personality counts alot after.

Really simple....... be yourself and realistic. Urkels don't dine with the Klums of the world! If he or she doesn't get the 411 after a few shots then don't stress, not the right fish in your chilly bin. Can't put a round peg in a square hole (a few mates would disagree: ) If you think your stepping up to the plate on a 'big date' release your stress before hand by working out or taking matters into your own hands (get the baby batter off the brain Mary styles). Stops clumsy/figity talk/actions and lets you focus on enjoying her company without losing yourself in her motorboat marina every 2 mins. She will be more than happy to 'be herself' if you can relax, listen, be yourself and make her laugh in your on way. Once shes enjoying your company, touch a part of her body that nomrally doesn't get much attention. If your sitting compliment her earings, on the move stroke the middle of her back on the spine as you walk or helping her into a car/cab. You'll know then by her signs as to wether she has an itch for you to scratch soon. Works for me, however as you know different strokes for different folks. Pun def intended