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It's really easy, outside of the experience, to say that 'No means No, and Yes means Yes' (if only our hearts were that black and white), but in application there can be a big grey area as to what is what. Firstly, if you're talking just about sex, rape is wrong, and anyone who forces a 'No' to somehow make it a 'Yes' has lost his humanity (if he ever had it). If we're talking about romantic intimacy (access to the heart), a lot of emotional foreplay can be involved, and sometimes a push is necessary to illicit the desired response. All going well, these little pushes are usually welcomed, as long as they remain playful. When you're being romantic, your heart is open, and these pushes are all part of breaking down our individual emotional barriers. Romance ensures that they are subtle, and in no way meant to hurt. But it's a wise man who realises when he's getting nowhere and retreats before he gets a very definite 'No' thrown in his direction. But again, retreat can also be seen as the wrong move, and you may find yourself being called back to take the challenge again, especially if she knows you're getting close. That's romance for you. There are many paths to success, and No can sometimes mean No, but it can also mean 'I need more help to open up' or simply 'I'm enjoying the game and I want you to keep trying.'
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