10 Sex Tips Every Guy Should Know

Sarah Gibson

Sarah Gibson is the brains and attitude behind the playful adult toy website sexgear . She is also our official ‘sexpert’.

Just in time for that hot night of loving you have planned for Valentines, we’ve put together the top ten must-know secrets for guys to keep their gals satisfied.


1. It’s safer at the shallow end. What I mean by this is that, evidence suggests, the outer third of the vagina is the most sensitive, so deep thrusting isn’t essential  - at least not for her! Instead, try ‘dipping’ the tip of your member in and out of her vagina.  

2. There are more than two erogenous zones. Yes the breasts and pubic area are obvious hot-spots but they get a lot hotter when stimulated in conjunction with other areas. Try kissing and gently stroking her neck, back, stomach and inner thighs.

3. Women are slow burners. For women, good sex takes time. Women are also more emotional lovers. So dedicating 10-15 minutes prior to sex, cuddling, kissing and holding your partner will be infinitely more successful at getting her aroused than spending a frustrating 5 minutes rubbing an unresponsive clitoris.   

4. Tell her how great she looks. And mean it. On the whole, women don’t love to be naked. The second her clothes come off she feels vulnerable and sensitive. When she undresses, tell her what you love about her body.  And if she tries to turn the lights off, turn them back on to show her she has nothing to be embarrassed about.

5. Assume the right position. Yes, the pieces of the puzzle will always go together but there are certain tricks that will help make sure they are the perfect fit. By simply sliding a pillow under her bottom while you enter her, you bring her clitoris and g-spot into better contact with you.

6. You should both finish the race. As already mentioned, women take time to climax. Men, however, are much quicker. Orgasmically speaking, she is the tortoise to your hare. So if you climax first, no matter how tired you are, you’re responsible for helping her over the finish line. The best tactic? Head south with your mouth.

7.  Talk to her. This doesn’t mean you need to launch into a running commentary on your love-making, but break the silence/moaning every now and again with some arousing words. Women love communication from men, including in the bedroom.  Occasionally mention why you love doing what you are doing to her, ask her what she wants you to do next, or throw in the guaranteed winner ... “I just can’t get enough of you...” Best said in a husky, breathless voice.

8. Be clean. Just as you’re more inspired to indulge her in some oral action when you know she’s just washed, women are also more turned on by a tidy man. Seeing you showered, shaven, smelling good with a clean t-shirt on and with freshly brushed teeth is like foreplay to her.

9. Aim for G-Spot Orgasm. Only 30% of women have ever reached a g-spot climax, and 100% of women want to experience this unknown ecstasy.  So if you’re the guy who helps her to get there, you’ll forever be seen as a sex god in her eyes. The best technique to achieve this is to use a curved finger or g-spot toy.

10. Enjoy Oral Sex. Yes she can tell when you flinch or seem hesitant about going down on her. But even if it isn’t your favourite thing to do, it’s the best way for most women to reach orgasm, so you’ll have to learn to enjoy it. Because when she’s happy, you’re happy, right?

Take Care, Sarah Gibson at www.sexgear.co.nz

P.S. If there’s anything about sex that you’d like to ask, or a discussion you’d like to start just email me info@sg.co.nz and I’ll do my best to write about it for you here at getfrank.co.nz


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  • Sene says
    Cool thanks for the tips can't wait to give it a go :)
  • Totally agree and love the advice - very important for a man to consider my/the ladies climax but this shouldn't be done in a way that is pressuring or makes me feel like a participant in the Spanish Inquisition.
    Post coital questions about "Did you....you know....?" make people feel uncomfortable becasue it results in the potential of "Well...no"....AWKWARD.
    If you aren't sure.....the answer is probably no. Don't make her feel uncomfortable or on the spot, subtle questions about 'what did you like' might be a better approach. Constantly worrying about the fact that you 'need' to climax because there is going to be a battery of questions and aquestionaire to fill out afterwards - doesn't make it any easier.
  • Brent says
    If you want real passionate loving from your lady start with emotional forplay about 24 hours before hand.
  • Nos4R2D2 says
    Great advice.
  • Jackson says
    Kinda wouldv'e thought being clean would be at the top of the list, my motto has always been, if it smells sweet turn up the heat, if it smells foul run like hell.
  • scott says
    my motto is smells like chicken keep on licking, smellsn like trout get the f out
    • Gerry says
      You mean there really are Erogenous zones,well I'll be dammed.
    • New Member says
      I don't understand why everybody says it's soooo hard to find the g-spot. Maybe with a penis it is depending upon the woman you're with, but with a finger it's easy. Use either index finger and insert it. About an inch and a half to two inches back make a "come here" motion with your finger. You'll notice the skin will feel different inside and about that time you'll have problems keeping her from going crazy. As an added way to intensify her pleasure, flatten your hand and gently push down on her lower abdominal area right above your finger. As she's climaxing, purse your lips into an O (not exactly your "O face haha) and form a vacuum around her clitoris. As she begins to come down from the orgasm, alternate between suction and no suction. Then when she's ready, resume cunnilingus. Just keep that up as long as she wants, or can stand it. Allow her to sleep it off, wake her up with a repeat performance...
    • New Member says
      Is oral sex really safe!
    • DeeDee says
      definitely number 8 if guys want a BJ, and especially if the women has washed if not sorry it ain't happening, my best tip is to relax and go with the moment don't try to over perform cause you'd probably fall short, setting the mood if you can is a definite and some fav sounds to get that mood going is always a plus, Sarah has given some great advice boys no harm in using it to your advantage
    • New Member says
      This tips are awesome (not like some you can read in other sites and magazines). I have included 2 of them in my sexycrets account (http://www.sexycrets.com/tips/102 and http://www.sexycrets.com/tips/101) quoting and direct linking to you!

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