How to Deal With Approach Anxiety – 3 Tips For Handling It Now

Chris Tyler

Chris is an American dating columnist who is sharing his straight up wisdom on attracting, seducing and winning beautiful women. A bit of an alpha male himself check out his blog at

It’s natural that you are going to feel a little bit of anxiety or worry or apprehension about approaching a woman from time to time.  There is no sense in trying to eliminate that completely.  However,  if you find that you get approach anxiety to the point where it makes you freeze up completely or avoid any situations where you could end up missing out on getting a date because you don’t feel confident enough that you are going to make a good impression,  that can be a problem.

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Here are 3 tips that can help you handle approach anxiety now so that it doesn’t prevent you from being able to get dates with women:

1)  Learn to breathe more calmly before you decide to walk up to a woman.

The way that you breathe does have an effect on anxiety levels and if you don’t get that in check,  it is going to be hard to control any approach anxiety that you feel.  Breathe in and out calmly so that you keep your heart rate at a normal level.  This doesn’t completely eliminate feelings that you might have of being anxious,  but it does help out a lot.

2)  Don’t get lost in your mind,  stay in the present.

One easy way to get yourself worried about making an approach is when you get lost in your mind and you start thinking about all of the negative things that you don’t want to happen.  Thinking about those things is just going to keep giving yourself reasons to be worried,  so stay in the present and just know that your goal is to make conversation and see if you can ask her out on a date.

3)  Don’t allow a woman’s rejection to make or break you.

This is a lesson that I think every guy should take to heart,  regardless of whether or not they feel any approach anxiety.  You can’t let *one* woman’s opinion weigh so heavily that it can wreck your day or make you feel like a total loser.  She is just one chick in a sea of millions,  so if she ends up shooting you down,  move on to the next one and don’t think about it too much.

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