How to Approach Women – Confidence Is Not Enough

Chris Tyler

Chris is an American dating columnist who is sharing his straight up wisdom on attracting, seducing and winning beautiful women. A bit of an alpha male himself check out his blog at

You’ve probably already heard it before. That in order to approach a woman and get a positive response from her, you need to be confident. Well, that is definitely true to some extent. You don’t want to approach a woman when you are obviously lacking confidence in yourself. But, is confidence alone the magic bullet that it is made out to be?

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When I was a little younger, I knew a guy who had all of the confidence in the world. No matter where we went, he had no problems at all walking up to women and starting conversations. It was like he never even gave it a second thought. So, you would probably think that he did pretty well with women, right? Especially since they always say that confidence is the make or break factor when it comes to approaching women. Well, he may have had the confidence to approach women, but I can tell you… he hardly ever even got so much as a phone number, much less anything more than that.

Confidence is just the beginning…

If you are counting on confidence alone as being the one and only factor in your success with women, expect to see a lot of hit or miss results. Meaning, don’t be surprised when you find out that you have to approach quite a few women just to get one phone number or one date. Just being sure of yourself is not enough to get dates with women, at least not the really attractive ones, the ones that you want to date.

Do you need to be confident?

Absolutely. However, what are you going to do after you approach a woman? How are you going to make her go from just meeting you to wanting to be with you? The friend that I was talking about certainly never lacked confidence in himself. What he did lack was the conversational skills that build attraction with a woman.

See, he would approach women, start talking to them, and immediately drone on and on about topics that were more or less boring to the woman. So, while he had no problems when it came to making the approach, he certainly did have problems in getting anywhere at all with the women he would open.

You need to know how to talk to women…

This is one of the best skills that any man can develop and it does not just help you out when it comes to building attraction with women. Being able to start conversations with people you don’t already know and have them actually enjoy talking to you can open up new doors. It can get you a better job, it can get your phone numbers and dates with women.

When you know how to talk to women and leave them hanging on your EVERY word, getting dates becomes EASY…


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