Sex: A-Z

Think you know everything there is to know about sex? This week I’m sharing my tightly packed A-to-Z of lewd but undeniably stimulating sexual terms. You might be surprised by what sexual lingo you do and don’t know.



A: Anal Beads:  string of beads inserted into the back cavity during sex and removed just prior to orgasm in order to heighten sensation.

B: BDSM: An acronym for “Bondage, Discipline, Sadism & Masochism.”  An umbrella term for a number of sexual practices focussed on control, power, restraint and pain.

C: Clitoris: Female sexual organ located externally on the vulva. When stimulated, it hardens and produces an orgasm.

D: Dildo:  A (sometimes phallic, sometimes not) sex toy with no moving parts or vibrating function used for internal stimulation.

E: Erection: The hardening of the male sexual organ as a result of arousal that prepares him for sex

F: Frottage: The consensual act of rubbing against someone for sexual pleasure.

G: G-spot: A female sexual organ located internally, sometimes hard to locate without an especially designed sex toy, which when stimulated, produces orgasm.

H: Hentai: A graphic form of animation (anime) from Japan which illustrates sexual scenes.

I: Infantilism: A niche sexual practice where one adult role-plays being an infant (sometimes wearing nappies) being disciplined by another adult who plays a mother figure.

J: Jism: Another word for semen, cum or sperm.

K: Kegel Exercises: Pelvic floor exercises performed by women and men to increase muscle strength, control and improve orgasm. Women can get assisted with Duo Balls.

L: Lingam: Ancient Indian term for the representation of the penis; appears in the Kama Sutra and often used in reference to Tantric Sex.

M: Mazophillia: An obsessive sexual fascination with woman’s breasts.

N: Non-Orthogenic Sex: Any act of sex that takes place for any reason other than for procreation.

O: Oralism: A broad term encompassing any sexual activity involving oral stimulation of the genitals. In the doctrine of Psychology, this term is used to describe any pleasurable activity involving the mouth, from smoking to eating and also oral sex.

P: Petit Mort: A French phrase. Literally, meaning ‘Little Death’ but figuratively pertaining to an orgasm. May have been derived from the notion that an intense orgasm can cause one to pass out, or experience a ‘mini death.’

Q: Quickie: Term used to describe a brief encounter of sexual intercourse. Usually a spontaneous and informal event with no foreplay leading to a hurried orgasm.

R: Rabbit Vibrator:  A popular sex toy characterized by having both an internal shaft and external clitoral stimulator combined in one unit. So called, because the clitoral tickler attachment is often shaped like a rabbit.

S: Shrimping: Term use to describe licking, sucking or kissing someone’s toes during sex.  Part of a greater sexual fetish, known as podophilia.

T: Tantalolagnia: Term used to describe feeling sexually aroused when being teased.

U: Uttana-Bandha: A term that appears in the Ananga Ranga, an ancient Indian book of sexual wisdom, from the late 15th century. Describes the sexual position where the male partner is on top.

V: Vita Sexualis: A Latin phrase translated as ‘sex power.’ Meant to encompass the notion that sex plays a powerful role in life, be it for good or for evil.

W: World’s Oldest Profession: Refers to prostitution which is believed to be the service offered in the first cash-for-commodity businesses.  It is thought to have begun with the Aztecs in Mesoamerica. Became a legal occupation in New Zealand due to the Prostitution Reforms Act in 2003.

X:  Xenerotica: A contemporary term for sexual attraction to strangers. Otherwise known as a typical Friday night.

Y: Yoni: An Ancient Indian term for the vagina or a representation of the vagina.  Appears prominently in the Kama Sutra and often used in the practise of tantric sex.

Z:  Zooerastia: Term used to describe sexual arousal from stroking and caressing animals. May stem from a fetish for animal fur and skins.

Congratulations for making it all the way to Z. Hopefully you’ve learnt something new!

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  • Frottage, definitely my favourite term here. Even sounds subversive.
  • Onaphobia says
    Frottage? Sounds like a small section of garden in front of an apartment building. "No time for sex this morning hon, I have to wash the car and tend the frottage"
  • shiny says
    lol ,brill from changing social order to gardening. i thought it might have been Frodos hair style.

    How bout this instead

    Things that make you go hmmmmm
  • Bruce says
    Xenerotica? Frottage? I got it now. Strangers having sex in my front garden on Friday nights! Had to be an explanation!
  • DeeDee says
    lol I thought jism was spelt jizzim oops....I'm liking the word frottage too...sounds intense, there were other interesting words in the rest as well which is good to know, but if you get a chance to read books on tantric sexuality there are some real eye openers there as well....
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