How to Master First-Time Sex

Sarah Gibson

Sarah Gibson is the brains and attitude behind the playful adult toy website sexgear . She is also our official ‘sexpert’.

When you go to bed with a woman for the first time you can experience ‘first night nerves’; and do and say things that you’d have never imagined.  Even the most experienced men can make rookie mistakes.  So use the tips below to master first-time sex and keep her coming back time and time again

A. & D.

It takes time

Guys tend to be caught up on the three date rule – but forget about it; all girls are different. Some girls will go to bed with you on the first date if they feel the sexual chemistry is there; while many others will want to wait for eight or more dates. Just because you don’t get any on the third date, it doesn’t mean that she’s not into you. Be patient and read the signs, she will drop hints when she’s ready to sleep with you. Watch out for the first time that she creates total privacy for the pair of you –that’s a good indicator that she is ready to take the next step.

Only fools rush in

When you get the green light, don’t just rush in and get down to business. Shower your new lover with kisses to show her that you enjoy being intimate with her and that it’s not all about the sex. During this ‘make-out session’ alternate soft kisses with more passionate ones and trace the line of her neck with your lips.

Tantalise her

Next you’ll want to direct you attention to the rest of her body; stroking her back, stomach, breasts, inner thighs and buttocks.  Spend about 15 minutes kissing and caressing these sensitive areas before moving your focus to her genital region. Trace your hand along the outside of her hips, slowly working your way between her legs. By this time she should be aroused and ready for the attention you are about to lavish on her clitoris.
Lip service

Most women enjoy a little lip service, and for some it is the only way they can orgasm. So if you're receiving encouragement, kiss your way down and spend some time south of the border. At first use your tongue to gently explore her labia and then barely touch her clitoris. Stop, and kiss her inner thighs to let the anticipation of your next move wash over her.

The main event

When you are both ready you can move onto the main event. The first time that you have sex with a new partner isn’t the time to showcase all of your favourite advanced positions from the Kama Sutra. So keep it fairly tame at first and adopt easier positions. Remember that most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, so stroke that little sweet spot as you simultaneously enter her. First time sex is about quality and not quantity, it’s neither a marathon nor a sprint - in general women are looking for about ten to twenty minutes of intercourse.

Have a postcoital plan

If you are into this girl then it’s important to have a postcoital plan; so you don’t look like a jackass who is only interested in one night stands. As a general rule women like about 20 minutes of closeness after sex; this can be anything from cuddling to laying and holding hands while chatting. You just need to devote some attention to her to show that you’re not just there for the sex. And don’t underestimate the importance of following up with a quick phone call the next day. Despite what you might think, it won’t look needy, she’ll appreciate that you took the initiative to call and still feel wanted.
Women will gauge your performance during first time sex and use it to determine if you have relationship potential. So using these tips should help you blow your ladies mind and secure many more repeat performances with her. Good luck!

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