How do I get back with my girlfriend?

This is a question that crosses the lips of a lot of men that are reeling from the aftershocks of a relationship breaking up. Trust me, I know how it feels. Every guy has at least one ex girlfriend in their past that they longed for at some point in time, and it can feel lonely and frustrating when you don’t know what to do to make her come back to you.

The key is to not give up, because the moment that you do, and you accept that you are not going to be able to figure out what will make her come back, well, you have already created the outcome. You need to be positive and optimistic about getting her back. Just remember that you won her over once before, so logically, it should be able to happen again.

Here are 3 common questions that you might have about getting back with your girlfriend:

1. Should you try to be her friend?

This is one of those things that people will advise you to do, and I have to say, in most situations it will end up being the deal breaker. Once you have conditioned your ex girlfriend to see you as just being a friend, she is going to do what all women do and place you in the NO SEX category. So, you can say good bye to the thought of being able to get her back in your bedroom and you can probably kiss dating goodbye, unless you want to be the guy that she goes to the movies with the night before she has a big date with some new guy.

2. Should you try and use friends and family to help you out?

Another common piece of advice is that you should use people around her to kind of talk you up and sell her on the idea of getting back with her. Well, it might sound okay at first, but let’s take a look at what USUALLY happens. Usually, the women is going to just shrug it off, and if people keep on pushing her on the idea, then she is going to build resentment towards both YOU and the person that is trying to help you out. At that point, she will already have her mind made up and you will NOT be a part of her plans.

3. Should you buy a system or a book to get your girlfriend back?

The market is filled with books and systems on relationship advice and most of it tends to win up being the same kind of stuff that you get from one of those syndicated columns in your local newspaper. Meaning, it sounds good, but it rarely works in the real world. There are some systems out there that are designed specifically from the male point of view, and this is what you really need to have a good chance at getting her back.