Friend to Girlfriend Secrets – How to Sway Her Over to Your Side and Become Your Girlfriend

Chris Tyler

Chris is an American dating columnist who is sharing his straight up wisdom on attracting, seducing and winning beautiful women. A bit of an alpha male himself check out his blog at

/img/placeholder.gif?aHR0cDovL2k1OTYucGhvdG9idWNrZXQuY29tL2FsYnVtcy90dDQ1L2dldGZyYW5rLzA2MTQxMC9mcmllbmRzLmpwZw==There is nothing worse than coming to the realization that the woman that you are totally in love with sees you as nothing more than just a guy friend and it seems like that is the way that it is always going to be. Is there some way that you can turn things around and sway her to your side and make her want to be your girlfriend?

Well, it can be a little bit tricky, so the best advice is to never try to be just friends with a woman that you would rather be dating. I know, it seems like the right thing to do and you expected that somehow you would be able to work a little bit of magic on her and she would just fall head over heels for you, but that is the movies and not your life.

Here’s what you need to do to get started on turning her from just a friend and make her want to be your girlfriend:

1. You are going to have to change the way that she sees you.

Right now, she probably does not have a single thought in her mind about ever doing anything physical with you. I know that sucks to hear, but it’s probably closer to the truth than thinking that she secretly does have these kinds of thoughts and feelings about you. To change the way that she sees you, it can take some time, so you have to be sure that she is worth it.

2. You are going to have to change the way that YOU see HER.

Just like she needs to see you in a different way, you also have to see her from a different point of view. The problem with becoming friends with a woman that you want to date is that you start to fall in love with her and you cannot help but to put her on a pedestal. You cannot see her from clear eyes. Every little thing that she does is adorable to you, and you will let her treat you anyway that she wants and that has to stop if you want to date her.

3. You are going to have to sweep back into her life and do it RIGHT this time.

Once you have reframed how you see her and how she sees you, then you need to have some time and space between you and her. Once that is over, THEN you can swoop back in and act the way that you should have in the beginning instead of becoming her friend. This means that you are going to have to flirt with her and make her feel like she has to get your approval. The dynamic has to shift and become right.

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  • russ says
    you need to be great friends with the one you love. If 'it' isn't there from day one it probably won't ever be, unless on side just settles.
  • The best sex is sex with feelings. Having heart involvement makes it all the much better for only doing it when its for real and not just for the sake of it...etc
  • New Member says
    lucky i love myself then
  • You gotta spend time with her but not overdo it, have gaps between the times you see each other and know that you're missing each other and want to again. Treat her with respect and like she is your best friend, which she should be and let her know that. Make her smile :)
  • bren says
    Great friend lead to great things and great memories to recall together
  • leroy says
    oh the pain and torment of being in love with a hot friend. this article is right on the button, but fails to mention the final and most important aspect of getting her to realise just how badly she wants you. when you come sweeping back into her life, make sure you have an extremely hot babe hanging off your arm. women have a very competitive nature and nothing is more attractive to a women then a guy with a hot girl on his arm. with a little luck you might even be able to pull off a three way, before you declare your undying love for your friend.
    • leroy says
      an entry in the draw for the mini 3 prize
    • New Member says
      Ok, I'm a girl so I'd just like to put any guys reading this right. If she's a nice girl she's not going to make a play for you if you have a hot girl on your arm, another girl's guy is out of bounds.

      If you believe girls are competitive then you may also believe you have to play games once you start dating. The truth is the girl probably does not understand the rules and is not going to know how to play. Just be normal, say what you want to say and ask her what you want to know.

      PS. no nice girl is going to want to date you or even participate in a three way with you just because you have won a hot car.
      • Battler says
        i beg to differ..
        • Levy says
          I think that the older (and WISER) we become, the more honest (and FUSSY) we become too... and yes, you do reach the point when you (if you lacked confidence all your life)stop playing games like hot-babe-on-the-arm-will-make-her-want-me-more...

          No Matter what you drive, who you are, who you think you may be, what you do for a living, or what you perceive others to be, always remember that women are to be respected.

          I think that if she doesn't realise what you feel for her, then just tell her. No frills. After a while she will realise how geniune your pitch was (especially if you leave her long enough to taste some banal guys out there). She will come back to you when she wants a meaningful relationship as an important part of her life ;)

          At least, thats what I hope will happen for me ;)

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