First Date Sex- Can YOU Make Her Want to Have Sex on The First Date?

Chris Tyler

Chris is an American dating columnist who is sharing his straight up wisdom on attracting, seducing and winning beautiful women. A bit of an alpha male himself check out his blog at

If you were to just walk up to a woman and ask her if she is the type to have sex on the first date,  what do you think her response would be?  No?  You got it.  Most women will tell you right off the bat that sex on a first date is NOT going to happen.  If you think that means that it is totally out of the question and that you CANNOT have sex on a first date with a woman,  think AGAIN!

Women are practically trained to make this kind of response,  but that does not mean that she will not have sex on the first date if everything goes just right.  And by going just right,  I’m not talking about walking up with a dozen roses and courting her like it was straight out of a movie.  Even in the real world,  you can still end up having sex on the first date,  as long as you play your cards right!

Here are some tips on how to make her want to have sex on the first date with YOU:

1.  You have to create a sensual mood.
If you want to ensure that you are going to set yourself up for some first date sex,  then you have to create a sensual mood for the night.  Create an atmosphere where you can be alone with her without a lot of interruptions.  A quite booth in the corner of a restaurant can be all that you need to start things off just right with her.  Whatever you do,  keep in mind that the mood of the evening is one of the biggest determining factors of whether or not she will end up in YOUR bed.

2.  Don’t make all of the conversation sexual.
When you have her close to you and you are deep in conversation with her,  it’s okay to throw in some sexual undertones to the back and forth banter,  but,  you do not want to come on too strong with the sex talk.  If she thinks that the only thing on your mind is getting her back to your place and in your bedroom,  you may not like the end result.  Women are pretty protective of their image,  and if she thinks that all you are trying to do is tag another notch above your bedpost,  she will hit the ground running.

3.  Share some intimate experience with her.

Whether it’s a conversation about something intimate,  or a physical act like dancing,  you want to share some intimate experience with her before you try and get intimate in the way that YOU really want to.  When you have already shared a little intimacy in one form,  it’s only natural that you will share it in the physical form as well.

4.  Show her how you kiss.
Kissing is a natural prelude to sex,  so you want to show her what you got in the kissing department.  Don’t wait for the moment when you want to lead her into your bedroom for you to go for the first kiss.  Instead,  kiss her earlier in the evening,  get it out the way,  and then make your move to take the kissing a little further as the night goes on.

5.  Start with the foreplay.
Don’t just rush into intercourse,  take it slower and start with the foreplay with her.  Run your hands up and down her legs nice and slowly and kiss her on the neck and down her chest.  When you show her that the evening is all about her,  she won’t feel like you are just out to get a little action.  She will feel that the two of you are sharing something more genuine and special.

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  • charlie says
    Another excellent article....and I agree 100%.
    Atmosphere is crucial in dating, and that goes from attitude to surroundings. Never forget humour...but keep intimacy, humour and seriousness in balance. There's a time and place for everything. If you can't kiss, you are failed before you start.. learn to kiss the right way. Take your lead from the lady if you're not sure...Some like soft, some enjoy full-on kisses. Humour is also a form of foreplay.
  • This may well work in the fancy pants bars of big foreign cities but the traditional kiwi method of both of you getting shit faced isn't to scoffed at when on the pull in Aotearoa.
  • New Member says
    Can I please
  • barnes10 says
    I think you should be a gentleman and not sleazy. and just see what happens. Making her laugh and listening to her is the best way.
  • A says
    With most women they want something they can't have - if from the outset your goal is to have a one night stand then of course she will know. However if you demonstrate a genuine interest, initiate a kiss early on and allude to second dates she'll relax and enjoy your company - rather than spend the whole night trying to assess your objectives. In fact if you are behaving like a gentleman you is genuinely interested in her chances are she'll take the lead in the bedroom department.
  • Lisa says
    LMAO Bloody men eh - so much for not knowing what we want. I think alot of woman would be too pissy to admit how closely you hit the nail on the head. You would totally get them in bed with that line up. if I might just add another little pointer - definitely agree with the kissing comment but I would suggest getting really close but seeing if you can get her to initiate the kiss - it makes us think the whole seduction thing was our idea and instead of feeling slutty - we're empowered...
  • anna says
    all said, i think a woman that is interested in you will usually let you know very early on if she is going to sleep with you or not on the first date. if it doesnt happen on the second then usally they are not interested. unless of course you put her off by your personality. looks first and then personality counts alot after.
  • Really simple....... be yourself and realistic.

    Urkels don't dine with the Klums of the world! If he or she doesn't get the 411 after a few shots then don't stress, not the right fish in your chilly bin. Can't put a round peg in a square hole (a few mates would disagree: )

    If you think your stepping up to the plate on a 'big date' release your stress before hand by working out or taking matters into your own hands (get the baby batter off the brain Mary styles). Stops clumsy/figity talk/actions and lets you focus on enjoying her company without losing yourself in her motorboat marina every 2 mins.

    She will be more than happy to 'be herself' if you can relax, listen, be yourself and make her laugh in your on way. Once shes enjoying your company, touch a part of her body that nomrally doesn't get much attention. If your sitting compliment her earings, on the move stroke the middle of her back on the spine as you walk or helping her into a car/cab. You'll know then by her signs as to wether she has an itch for you to scratch soon.

    Works for me, however as you know different strokes for different folks. Pun def intended

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